DENGAR - DENGARLAH HATIKU

Nenek saya pernah cakap :

"Orang yang paling berbahagia tak selalu memiliki hal-hal terbaik,
mereka hanya berusaha menjadikan yang terbaik dari setiap hal yang hadir dalam hidup mereka" YEM

Dr Manmohan Singh

"Tuhan menanugerahkan kepadaku ketenangan bagi menerima perkara-perkara yang tidak dapat ku ubah, keberanian mengubah perkara-perkara yang dapat ku ubah dan kebajikan bagi mengetahui perbezaannya"

LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE

by Richard Quek

Norman Cousins is a man who laughed his way from
sickness to complete health. He had a terminal illness
which the doctors gave him a one-in-five-hundred chance
of making a full recovery. Norman Cousins refused to
accept the doctors opinion and decides to take matters
into his own hand. Laughter was one tool Cousins used
in a conscious effort to mobilize his will to live and
to succeed. He spend most of his time immersed in
films, television programs, and books that made him
laugh. He eventually recovered completely and wrote a
book entitled, “Anatomy of an Illness”.

SUCCESS PRINCIPLES

The above story illustrates the importance of laughter,
smiling, having fun and focusing on the positive side
of things and circumstances. Our physiology can have a
big impact on our physical and mental well being and
also our emotion. Movement creates our emotion or state
of mind. If we approach our work with fun, then we are
not only going to enjoy it but we are surely going to
be more successful. We are also going to make more
friends and keep our body and mind healthy!

MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

"The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can
envision the fact that you can do something, you can do
it – as long as you really believe one hundred
percent."

SHARPEN YOUR AXE

by Richard Quek

Allan, a woodcutter, was employed in a timber company
for ten years, yet he never got a raise. The company
later hired Richard to do the same job. However,
Richard got a raise within the first twelve months.
Allan was disappointed and decided to approach the
management of the company. He was told that his
production had never increased over the last ten years.
On the other hand Richard had cut more trees in the
period of one year. The company however promised to
give Allan a raise if his production goes up. He went
back to work and tried harder but unfortunately his
result did not improve. One day he happened to meet
Richard and decided to get Richard’s advice. Richard
told Allan that after he cut down a tree, he would take
a short break to sharpen his axe. Allan suddenly
realized that he was too busy cutting down trees that
he failed to take a break to sharpen his axe.

SUCCESS PRINCIPLES

It is important to take a break from the pressure of
work to go on a holiday once in a while. Have a break
to take care of your physical body and your precious
mind. Spend some time on self-development to improve
yourself and to renew your mind. There are plenty of
seminars, books, tapes and materials in the market.
Make it a habit to search for good books to read, and
associate with people who are successful and with the
same wave length and you will surely see success.

MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

"Obstacles can't stop you. Problems can't stop you.
Most of all, other people can't stop you. Only you can
stop you."

TWO PATIENTS AT THE HOSPITAL

by Richard Quek

There were two patients in a small hospital room. They
were Tom and Bob. The room has only one window, and it
happened that Tom’s bed was by the window. Everyday,
Tom would relate to Bob about the beauty of the outside
world he saw through the window. He told Bob about the
trees with green leafs, the flowers blooming, the
weather, the children playing outside, and cars passing
by. This kept Bob entertained since he was unable to
see it for himself. However, as time went by, Bob
became envious of Tom. He thought to himself, how nice
it would be if he could see everything for himself. One
night, Tom was very sick, and he asked Bob to call for
help. Bob could have shouted for assistance, but he did
not do so. He secretly wished that Tom would die, so
that he could occupy the bed by the window. Tom did
die, and Bob was moved to the bed beside the window.
Bob was excited now that he had the opportunity to see
the outside world with his own eyes. However, to his
utter shock, the only view he got was a brick wall. He
realized that he had lost a true friend in Tom, but it
was too late now!

SUCCESS PRINCIPLES

In life there are people who care and love us. Our
parents, wives, children, friends and others do care
about us. In most cases we tend to take things for
granted until we suddenly realize that they are no
longer with us. Take care of them and treat them with
respect and you will have all the joy in the world.

MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

"Remember not only to say the right thing in the right
place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid
the wrong thing at the tempting moment."

LET’S PLAY GOLF AT NIGHT

by Richard Quek

Ben Hogan was one of the greatest golfers of all time.
One day he was approached by a blind man, who praised
him for his great skill of golf! Ben Hogan asked the
blind man what he could do for him. The blind man said
that it was his life long dream to play a round of golf
with the great Ben Hogan. He added that he also wanted
to have a bet with Ben. Ben was of course hesitant
about the bet since there was no way that the blind man
was going to beat him. He did not want to win money
from a blind man. But the blind man kept on insisting,
and eventually Ben agreed to the bet. Ben looked at the
blind man and asked, “What time shall we play today?”
To which the blind man replied, “I will meet you at
this golf course at 9.00 pm tonight!” By the way during
those days there was no “night golfing”.

SUCCESS PRINCIPLES

To win or succeed we must have a plan or strategy, and
position ourselves to our advantage. Do not dwell on
our weaknesses but rather focus and build on our
strength. All of us have been endowed with the seed of
greatness, and we are capable of achieving great things
with our present abilities. Do not under estimate
yourself.

MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE

"No one ever attains very eminent success by simply
doing what is required of him; it is the amount and
excellence of what is over and above the required that
determines the greatness of ultimate distinction."

Nasihat Yang Menghasilkan Diam

Kalaamuna lafzun mufeedun kastaqim…

Itu petikan daripada Alfiyyah Ibn Malik, kitab yang digunakan semasa belajar Nahu Arab.

Kalam di sisi kami ialah lafaz yang bermanfaat seperti, “beristiqamahlah!”

Ibn ‘Aqil mensyarahkan Alfiyyah Ibn Malik dengan penjelasan yang menarik. Menurut Ibn ‘Aqil, KAMI yang dimaksudkan di dalam bait syair di atas ialah Ahli Nahu. Kata Ahli Nahu, “di sisi kami apa yang dikatakan sebagai kalam ialah lafaz-lafaz yang bermanfaat”. Contohnya ialah ‘istiqamahlah’.

Bagaimanakah lafaz ‘istiqamahlah’ boleh dianggap bermanfaat?

Ia dianggap bermanfaat kerana ia adalah lafaz yang menghasilkan DIAM, tanda mesej yang mahu disampaikan itu difahami seperti yang sepatutnya. Berbeza dengan ungkapan, “saya pergi ke”. Ia tidak difahami dan tidak menghasilkan DIAM. Orang pasti mahu bertanya, “pergi ke MANA?”

Itulah definisi Ahli Nahu.

Saya turut menumpang sama.

Setelah dua buku berkaitan cinta dinukilkan, harapannya ialah banyak soalan terjawab. Tetapi email di bawah memberikan indikasi, ada sesuatu yang tercicir daripada dua buku saya.

Ikuti perbualan kami:

SOALAN

“Assalamualaikum ustaz.

Saya sudah membaca buku ustaz, Aku Terima Nikahnya dan Bercinta Sampai ke Syurga. Terima kasih atas buah tangan ustaz yang banyak membantu saya menempuh kehidupan. Teruskan menulis.

Saya ada satu masalah peribadi yang sangat rumit, dan saya memerlukan pandangan daripada ustaz.

Saya sudah bertunang semenjak setahun yang lalu. Tunang saya adalah seorang lelaki yang baik. Tetapi kami tidak pernah berjumpa dalam erti kata keluar makan atau bersiar bersama-sama. Hanya sesekali berhubung dengan telefon dan sms. Saya di Kuala Lumpur dan beliau bekerja jauh di seberang.

Masalah peribadi yang saya maksudkan ialah, saya jatuh hati dengan seorang jejaka di tempat kerja saya, dan beliau pula ada suami orang. Kami sering bertemu di tempat kerja, dan urusan kerja seharian rupa-rupanya tanpa sedar membibitkan percintaan di antara kami. Saya tahu yang beliau suami orang dan beliau juga tahu yang saya sudah bertunang. Tetapi kami tidak dapat membohongi diri masing-masing tentang perasaan ini.

Saya khuatir perbuatan saya ini menzalimi tunang saya dan isteri jejaka tersebut.

Saya sudah puas bersolat hajat meminta petunjuk dari Allah, membaca al-Quran dan berdoa, tetapi saya masih belum mempunyai kekuatan untuk menolak cinta ini.

Saya memerlukan satu nasihat yang tegas dan kuat dari ustaz. Mudah-mudahan dengan nasihat itu saya bertemu dengan kekuatan yang tidak saya temui selama ini.

Terima kasih atas kesudian membaca email saya. Harap ada balasan daripada pihak ustaz. Saya setia menanti.

Wassalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

Gadis KL”

JAWAPAN

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakaatuh.

Terima kasih atas kiriman email saudari. Terima kasih juga kerana membeli dan membaca buku saya.

Sesungguhnya segala yang perlu diperkatakan, telah saya perkatakan di dalam kedua-dua buku yang saudari baca. Justeru jika saudari masih memerlukan satu nasihat lain yang lebih tegas dan kuat dari saya, hanya yang satu ini sahaja yang belum saya nukilkan.

Ambillah lilin, nyalakan ia dan letakkan satu daripada sepuluh jari saudari di api lilin itu. Hitunglah berapa saat saudari mampu bertahan akan kepanasan api lilin yang membakar dan menghanguskan satu daripada sembilan jari saudari.

Jika saudari melepasi proses pertama ini, letakkanlah pula jari kedua hingga ke jari yang ke sepuluh.

Rasalah sendiri panasnya api.

Sesungguhnya kepanasan api lilin itu, hanyalah secebis daripada kepanasan api Neraka dan Murka Allah yang menanti manusia yang menzalimi manusia yang lain.

Dalam lambakan kata-kata yang banyak dan pelbagai itu, mungkin kepanasan api Nerakalah yang sudah dilupakan manusia.

“Dan demi sesungguhnya, Kami akan merasakan mereka sedikit dari azab dunia sebelum azab yang besar (di Akhirat kelak), mudah-mudahan mereka itu kembali (bertaubat)” [Al-Sajdah 32: 21]

Rabbanaa Aatinaa fi al-Dunyaa Hasanah, wa fi al-Aakhiraati Hasanah, wa Qinaa ‘Adzaaba al-Naar!

Ameen.

ABU SAIF @ www.saifulislam.com
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24 Julai 2009